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How Long Should You Suffer?

Recently, I've had a few people reach out to me asking about the services I provide.

People want to know more about what I do, how my program works and what kind of results they can expect if they decide to work with me. So, of course, I give them the information.

Sometimes, people are keen to make the leap. They have a problem or an issue they are dealing with, they've struggled with it for a while, they get the point where they get fed up and suddenly, they decide. That's it. I'm ready for change.

The point we reach when the decision becomes easy, is the point at which we reach the threshold of pain. We're faced with challenge, we muddle around in it for a while, we try a couple of strategies, we get frustrated, we give up, we keep experiencing the pain, we try something else, that doesn't work, we try ignoring it, we try masking it, we try to grin and bear it, but there always comes a point when we reach the threshold. The scales tip, our resolve weakens, we come into acceptance of our own limitations and we surrender. "Okay, this is obviously not working. My problem isn't going away. I think I'm finally ready to ask for some help."

How long did it take? A week? A month? A year? Maybe 10 years? How long did you make yourself suffer through the pain until you got to the point where you were finally ready to ask for help?

Have you ever found yourself in one of those situations where you struggled with something for a REALLY long time, agonizing and fretting over it for weeks or months or years, only to find that, once you made the decision to get help, it actually turned out that it was extremely SIMPLE and EASY to resolve after all? You find yourself thinking, geez, if I had only known it was going to be THAT easy, I would have done it a long time ago!

I remember the time I had dislodged a couple of my ribs. The pain was so intense I could barely breathe. Because I had previously used this amazing chiropractor, I knew just what I had to do. I called up and booked an appointment, went in to see him the next day, and in a matter of seconds, he had me back on my feet standing upright with no pain. Voila!

That same chiropractor told me a story of a police officer who had been in to see him suffering from severe back pain. He told him that he had suffered with it for 8 years. Excruciating, debilitating, pain. In one session, the chiropractor had him back on his feet. Pain free. The officer was dumbfounded.

The thing is, when you find somebody who can relieve your pain, someone you know is going to look after you and resolve your issue quickly and easily, you no longer hesitate to seek help. You call them. They agree to see you. They take care of you. You trust them. It is an easy exchange.

Coaching works the same way. People don't get into coaching because they want to scam people. The reason why people get into coaching is because they want to help. They have life experience and expertise, they have known struggle and pain, and they have chosen to enter into a profession where they can help people who are going through things they have more than likely been through themselves.

Like myself, most coaches have spent years doing research and personal development because they themselves had a problem they were needing and wanting to solve. Through all that research and effort, somewhere, they managed to find a solution that really works. Once they find that solution, they want to share it with others. The benefit to you, once you decide to hire a coach, is that you get to have access to all that information, without having to spend years trying to find it. IT SAVES YOU TIME, SUFFERING, MONEY AND ENERGY!

Coaching works best when people believe that they have what it takes to solve their problems. A coach's job is not to have all the answers. A coach's job is to help you find your own. Their objectiveness allows them to see things you can't. Their training and experience allows them to hear what you may not even realize you're saying, and interpret it back to you so you can get clarity and perspective around your own thoughts and ideas.

One of the most difficult parts of being a coach is seeing people in pain and knowing you can help them, and accepting that they may not yet be ready to seek help.

People have all kinds of reasons for not asking for help. Most people are very independent. They don't like to ask for help. Most men, in particular, abhor the thought of asking for help. Some people are skeptical of life coaches. They don't know a lot about them and because it isn't yet a licensed profession, some people doubt their ability or their expertise.

In the same way that many people forego the scientifically proven and logical benefits of healthy eating and physical activity for optimal health, people convince themselves that the perceived risk of seeking help is somehow more daunting than continuing to suffer from the pain of their problem. And it completely falls within each person's right to choose that for themselves.

The question I am asking though, is, is it really? It's an interesting subject to consider when we look at the state of the world we are living in today.

Fear keeps people stuck in their pain. It keeps us wandering aimlessly, struggling enormously and perpetuating a generational pattern of suffering.

Our pain affects our families, our children, our communities and our world. There is a global need right now for healing and reconciliation. We need to decide if we are going to be a part of that healing. That choice will determine whether we become a critical part of the solution, or remain an integral part of the problem.

You may believe that your problem is too small or too insignificant to make an impact, but the truth of the matter is that it all matters. Your problem matters. And the reason why is because it impacts more people than you yourself. When you suffer, the world suffers. When you rejoice, the world rejoices with you. And you lead people by your example of change.

Wherever you are, whatever it is that you may be going through right now, I can promise you that there is a simple solution. Chances are, it will be a lot easier than you think. The only question you need to ask yourself is, how long should you continue to suffer?

What's the biggest challenge you are facing in your life right now? How is that impacting you and what would it mean for you if you could overcome it? I can show you how to overcome this and any other kind of challenge quickly and easily. I can teach you how to solve complex problems with simple solutions, so you can get the results you want while saving you time, money and pain. Would that be something you would be interested in?

Contact me to find out how you can receive a one hour Complimentary Coaching Consultation Session. This free session can help you get clear about what has been holding you back, and give you the opportunity to create a powerful strategic action plan to help you achieve your goals! Click on the link below to schedule your free Consultation Session today!


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About the author

Tamara Dodgson is a Certified Strategic Intervention Coach and owner with Forward Coaching and Consulting Services. Utilizing the most powerful principles and strategies from master Strategic Interventionists, Tamara offers a sound, knowledgeable and dependable methodology for change, whether it relates to matters of the individual, couple, family, partnership, company, organization or community. She has successfully helped her clients navigate through hundreds of unique and challenging life situations, often involving complex issues such as addictions, separation and divorce, and criminal proceedings. Tamara empowers her clients by helping them identify what they want, teaching them a successful and proven methodology for change and providing them with measurable and lasting results. You can connect with her on Facebook at Forward Coaching & Consulting Services, on LinkedIn at Tamara Dodgson, on her website at www.tamaradodgson.com, or via email at coaching@tamaradodgson.com.

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