5 Top Tips to Build Your Self Confidence
Some things just never fail when it comes to making us feel good about ourselves, and there are many, many things we could focus on, strive for or aim to be in our lives. One of the greatest and most powerful of these though is the ability to have Self Confidence.
We all want to feel a sense of Certainty about ourselves - to be able to feel good about who we are and what we stand for and even where we are headed. Self Confidence enables us to ask for and strive for what we want; it gives us the ability to be assertive and let people know where we stand, and it helps us to see and believe that we are capable of anything.
Without Self Confidence, we seem to lack the energy to do much of anything. We find excuses rather than reasons, we find victimhood instead of personal power, and we definitely find plenty of examples that prove our own unworthiness (to confirm the limiting beliefs we hold about ourselves.)
Through my own process of personal growth and development in the area of Self Confidence, I have noticed that there are a number of pieces that have proven to be more effective and more powerful than others. With that in mind, I'd like to share a few of them with you.
Here are 5 Ways to Build Your Self Confidence:
Set Goals and Then Take Immediate Action. Progress equals happiness! Think about setting some priorities that you would like to accomplish and then go and do the first one on your list. The very moment you take the initiative to tackle your first item, you begin to raise your self esteem. Every time you are able to cross off another item on your list, you will be lifting yourself to a higher level of satisfaction and self worth. When you start making any kind of progress towards your goals, you will immediately begin to notice how much better you feel.
Get to the Gym or Start Some Kind of Exercise Program. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING in the world will raise your self esteem faster or more effectively than exercise. It is time tested and proven, and guaranteed to have you feeling better about yourself and your abilities in no time at all. One of the best benefits is that it doesn't really matter how you do it - only that you find some way to get your body moving and your heart pumping - and I speak from experience when I tell you that even walking will make a difference. Lace up those sneakers and get going!
Make a Real Decision. Any time we have something lingering in our lives that requires our attention and our focus, it has a way of draining us of energy. We can ponder over things for days, weeks, months and even years without really making a definitive decision one way or another. This dodging reduces our self confidence and eventually makes us feel powerless and out of control. Choose something today that you may have been avoiding dealing with for some time and make a definite decision about it. Whether it ends up being a good decision or a bad one, at least you will be making progress and you will be able to feel good about the fact that you were able to come to some kind of conclusion. Trust yourself - you can do it!
Let Go of the Longing. I could literally write books on this subject because it is one of the most powerful things you could ever do. Let go of the longing or the belief that you need anything. I'm not referring to the obvious needs here - eating, drinking, sleeping, shelter. What I am referring to is the longing...the desire to have something that you don't believe you currently have. Everything in life happens exactly when it's supposed to and not before. Trying to rush things, force things or will things to happen at the pace you want is futile and nonsensical. It is a tremendous relief when you become willing to let go of that need for control. Do yourself a favour and make a decision today to relax and let nature take its course.
Learn to Accept Who You Are. This is, by far, the most pain inducing and most prevalent problem in our society today. The vast majority of the population feel as though they are not enough. Why? Because it is our deepest fear; and the meaning that we attach to that fear is that if we are not enough, then we won't be loved. You can change the way that you feel in a heartbeat and at any time, by choosing to believe that you are enough. Love begins and ends with us. We can only experience as much love as we are willing to give. It is reciprocal. When we begin from a place that is lacking or empty, then it affects our ability to experience love in every way. Understand that you do not have to be, do or achieve anything to be worthy of love. The only thing that impedes your ability to experience and receive it is your inability to love and accept yourself.
There may be things that you don't like about yourself, and there's nothing wrong with aiming higher and wanting to raise our own personal standards. As human beings, we are meant to grow. But learning to become confident in yourself and your abilities will take you a long way towards being able to feel the way you want to feel on a daily basis.
Remember that "As you think, so shall you become". Believing that you are anything other than extraordinary is doing yourself and everyone else in the world a disservice. You must believe that you are worthy, deserving and capable of accomplishing anything you set your mind to. That belief, after all, is the only thing that is required to make it possible.
If you would like to have some help crafting a vision for your life or eradicating your limiting beliefs, please contact me to find out how you can take advantage of my complimentary, one-on-one, 2 hour Coaching Consultation. This free session can help you get to the core of your deepest desires and give you the opportunity to create a powerful and impactful purpose driven plan for 2017!
About the author
Tamara Dodgson is a Certified Strategic Intervention Coach and Life Strategist, trained by Robbins Madanes. She has spent the better part of a half century studying, researching and learning about personal growth and development, self-help, spirituality, leadership, success, achievement and philosophy. She is a writer, philosopher, life coach, mother, fitness enthusiast, nature lover, book fanatic and divine being of infinite possibilities. She is also the proud author of "Designing Your Life - A Guide to Help You Consciously Create Your Future" and has recently released a new educational program called "2017 - Your Year of Transformation." You can connect with her on Facebook at Forward Coaching & Consulting Services, on her website at www.tamaradodgson.com, or via email at email@example.com.